Structure
Your program probably has a set structure already built in. If not, you might want to outline a general routine of activities that you expect to accomplish in one day. For example, you might start with a snack, a group game, then homework time, etc. The schedule should remain constant from day to day. This consistency of routine leads kids to know what to expect and helps them feel in control, which usually means better behavior. Give kids as much warning as possible when circumstances dictate that you must modify your regular routine.
Expectations
Behavioral expectations should be clear and unambiguous, and teens in your program should be well aware of them. The first day of a new program year is a good time to review rules, even for veteran students. Or, if a particular issue keeps coming up, take that opportunity to go over applicable rules and consequences. Kids often need frequent reminders. If practical, have your group draw up its own behavioral expectations. This exercise gets kids thinking about appropriate behavior, and helps them take ownership for following the rules they helped create.
Consequences
Your program should have consistent consequences built into its structure. Kids should know right off the bat what will happen if they choose to step out of line. As much as possible, try to make consequences reasonable and logical. For example, if two teens start arguing during an activity, they lose the opportunity to participate in the activity until they can work out their conflict.
Consistency
Consequences should be applied fairly and consistently among your students. You will only breed contempt for yourself and between your kids if they perceive that staff is playing favorites. Likewise, staff members should be a unified front as far as student discipline is concerned. Staff members who choose to take on the “friend” role as opposed to setting and maintaining limits with kids make life harder for their co-workers, and they subvert any efforts to teach kids about the consequences of their behavior.
Relationship
Generally speaking, kids behave better for people they respect and trust. Kids won’t respect you unless they know you care about them. Make developing strong relationships with kids your top priority. Likewise, to earn their respect, kids need to know that you will be firm, but fair. They won’t respect you if they think you’re a pushover. Make sure you are following through on consequences, being a good role model, and behaving ethically and honestly.
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