Strategies to help support teens in dealing with this overwhelming issue.
Be a positive role model. Watch what you say to kids and how you say it. Be sure you aren’t modeling disrespectful behavior, and let kids see you honoring limits and choices. Don’t downplay concerns or brush them off as “he said, she said”. If kids confide in you, take their concerns seriously.
Social skills development. Kids need opportunities to learn what behaviors constitute sexual harassment, and learn the importance of developing respect and empathy for others. Teach them the components of healthy, respectful relationships. Help them become adept at reading body language: if “flirting” is not reciprocated, jokes are not laughed at, or the person is avoiding them, they may be stepping over the line.
Assertiveness training. Many kids are hesitant to stand up for themselves because they fear losing a friendship or being seen as “mean”. They also may fear making the problem worse. Help kids recognize that they are worthy of respect. You can also help them develop confidence in speaking up for themselves when boundaries are unclear in a way that strengthens, rather than hurts, friendships. Good communication skills are also key in helping kids learn how to avoid mixed messages about what behavior they will and will not tolerate.
Role play. Help teens practice role-playing different situations before they happen. Have them take turns in both roles, and practice setting and respecting boundaries. Help them practice being strong, assertive, and confident so they have the skills they need to cope with sexual harassment in the real world.
How to get help. Kids may be able to resolve some minor incidents on their own. When they can’t, make sure they know where to go for help. Tell them to keep reporting until they get help. Encourage them to keep a record documenting each occurrence, as well as noting who else may have witnessed the incidents. If all else fails, they may have to resort to legal action.
Comfort and support. Kids who are experiencing sexual harassment need validation and support. Give them an opportunity to talk and express their feelings. Teens who are victims of unrelenting sexual harassment are at increased risk for problems like depression, school avoidance, anxiety, and substance abuse. Keep the lines of communication open, and involve parents in any problem-solving plans.
Also check out the blog Teens and Sexual Harassment:The Blame Game.
